Monday, September 3, 2007

married men, are quite puke-y

i mean, married men of our generation, just to clarify. what a far cry from the times of my Dad and my beloved Uncle Sarge. of Uncle Handsome in Adelaide. and uncle Socka. when these original gentlemen were in the game. quietly romantic, faithful to a fault, never offensive to women. in addition... think romance, think Autumn Leaves. think respect for spouse. think discreet. sigh.

i mean married men today. what is up with that ring? that ring is usually just a neon beacon for "talk to me. i am vulnerable. and i am trapped. and i need a special friend. and i like you". and boy-o-boy. i have many such "friends" - i.e.: cousins removed; friends of friends; husbands of friends; acquaintances; ex-work colleagues; and even my own sibling. so it is not that i am sitting on my ass making all this up. the drama i have witnessed vicariously and have personally experienced.. starting with the text messaging. then the thinking and speaking out loud of all the 4th-gear insinuations that "we" should go with the flow. that "we" should not have boundaries. that "we" should not be afraid.

well, i say: grow-up.

it is SO not a "we" thing. it's a YOU + YOUR WIFE THING. life when you are married equates boundaries. you walked those "saat phere" so you only get freedom when you are doing it with your wife. other than that, you should be very afraid. that one wrong card falling out of place is your entire life gone down the toilet. especially when you have children. (and especially when one of them kiddies is a girl. think karma dude!) and that MOST single women almost 40 today? we choose to be single, and are not suckers for this "live life dangerously and see where it all ends up cos you have been missing out" crap. that we lose just a little more respect for you, and we shake our heads, and say: poor wife-y man! what an arse to be married too. thank God he is "just a friend".

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